Life Goes On…
It’s been more than two months since Mom passed. In some ways it is getting easier. I’ve been extremely busy, busy hands keep the mind focused. We’ve welcomed many house guests this summer. Somehow life goes on.
My writing has defintely been put on a back burner with everything else that’s been going on. But I’ve regitered for an excellent Writers Conference in Cincinnati and I expect to get back into a more productive writing routine as summer activities wind down.
There was a time when I studied and prepared for exams regarding the Grieving Process. I knew the right things to say and what to expect but I never knew what it really felt like to grieve. Well, forty years ago my little brother was killed in an accident and that was very hard… But losing Mom and suddenly becoming the oldest woman in our large family has profoundly impacted me.
Someone called last week and asked, “So, how are you?”
I responded, “Okay. How are you?”
She said, “Spectacular.”
I answered, “It’s been a long time since I’ve felt spectacular.”
She asked, “What’s wrong?”
I replied softly, “Well, my mother died only a few weeks ago.” (This was something the caller was well aware of.)
She said, “Well, when you wake up tomorrow, just tell yourself you are going to have a happy day.”
I hesitated and then answered, “Sure, I’ll try that.”
The caller probably meant well…but grieving takes time. I’m sure we greivers can become an aggravating annoyance but please be patient with us. Losing a loved one to cancer is a long goodby and we all recover from our grief at our own pace. Yes, life goes on and I’m trying.